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Puppy Kills 2 Month Old Baby

Today I read a disturbing article. An L.A. paper reported that a 2 month old baby was mauled to death by a Lab puppy. The mother and grandmother were home, but the baby was in another room, and left unattended in a swing. The puppy was removed from the home and more than likely will be put to sleep.

While this story is sad and upsetting on so many levels, what surprised me the most was the comments I read by readers. Most readers were upset that the puppy was going to be “put to sleep” and they blamed the mother for being negligent and leaving her child unattended around a lab puppy. So many readers commented ..”where were the parents..they should be prosecuted for neglect since they left their child unattended in a room.” SERIOUSLY??? PROSECUTED??? What could we possibly do to that mother that would be any worse than having her newborn baby killed>??? She is going to suffer greatly for what amounts to a mistake. And lets face it…all of us as mothers make mistakes.

How many of us, as mothers, have left our newborn sleeping peacefully in their swing while we went downstairs to do a load of laundry? Or to answer the phone in the next room? Or to water the garden? Pick up the mail from the mailbox? Are we negligent? NO.

What happened was a tragedy. A horrible tragedy that most of us pray every night we don’t have to live through. I was appalled at the “stone throwers” that want this woman to be punished, or who blame her. She will live the rest of her life wondering “what if”..she will go over and over that day in her mind until she goes numb. ..if she could’ve known, she would’ve never left the room. But we have the gift of hindsight. Is the puppy to blame?? The puppy was probably trying to play with the baby…he is an animal and doesn’t know any better..why blame him. The baby was innocent..too little to defend himself, too young to fight…there is no blame there. So who is to blame?

Maybe..just maybe there are things that happen in life…where no one is to blame. Maybe we, as a society, should try to look beyond placing blame..stop trying so hard to find someone to blame..someone to become the scape goat. The reason we need to blame the mother, blame the puppy..is so we can distance ourselves from what happened. So we can have a reason to believe that “this won’t happen to us..not to our children”. But accidents do happen…mistakes are made…even by good mothers.

“Let he who is without sin, cast the first stone”……even now…especially now….those words still ring true.

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10 comments on “Puppy Kills 2 Month Old Baby

  1. fatima(ma
    July 31, 2008

    good article.you are right.

  2. Chin
    July 31, 2008

    I agree. In the indignation that followed over the child’s death, people take out their shock, grief, and who knows what else on the poor mom. While their bile might upset her, nothing could be more upsetting than burying a child.

    Yes, mothers make mistakes, even the good ones. Those who think mothers are infallible should try motherhood out themselves.

  3. Polly
    July 31, 2008

    Sorry, I sorely disagree with you about the puppy/baby incident. The parents are entirely to blame for this. Who in their right minds gets a puppy when they have a small infant? The puppy needed as much supervision as the baby (why wasn’t the puppy crated???). They should be charged with child neglect and animal neglect. They are truly stupid people.

  4. Nancy
    July 31, 2008

    And remember…apparently the baby was left unattended for up to an hour and a half. Apparently the mother and grandmother were sleeping while the baby was left alone in the swing. If that’s not neglect, what is?

  5. octopusmom
    July 31, 2008

    In response to some of the comments I received…it is fine to think individually that the mother was negligent in some way. You may even think to yourself..”that would never happen to me”…”I have never fallen asleep while my baby was in the swing.”..”I never turn my back on my children..ever”. GREAT! I am not casting my vote for her to receive mother of the year…but as a society we can not begin to “condemn” parents when accidents happen..it is a slippery slope. If we prosecute her because her puppy attacked her child..then we will be prosecuting parents whenever something horrible happens. Heaping misery upon misery is not the answer. Those parents will be paying for the rest of their life. NOW…if they were drug addicts or intentionally cruel, sexually abusive etc..THAT is a different story. A mistake…is not the same thing as Child Abuse..if we start to blur the lines too much, we are all in danger.

  6. Holly
    August 5, 2008

    I truly agree with every word that has come out of Octopusmom’s mouth. I honestly have had my days and night of no sleep and didnt want to even try to get my little man out of the swing because of the possibility of awakening him and went down stairs and threw some clothes in the washer . You would think there is no harm in it , now Id have a problem with it if she was leaving he/ she on the floor with the puppy but thats not what happend .

  7. Me
    August 15, 2008

    I don’t even know where to start on this… Of course mistakes are made & no one is perfect , but I truly believe this could have been avoided by everyone involved. Of course the mother will blame herself for ever & she should. She neglected her child by leaving him alone while she napped on the other side of the house for over an hour- That is a long time- she didn’t just leave him alone long enough to start a load of laundry or answer the phone- she went & took a nap knowing that her infant was unattended. I don’t think it’s that people care more about the puppy but everyone feels the same- The puppy should have been watched as well & definitely kept away from the baby- The puppy was as neglected as much as the infant was in my opinion & both of them lost their lives because of it. To me this is no different then leaving your child in a hot car to die. We judge those parents and prosecute them so really why is this different- It is negligence plain and simple….

  8. Kristy
    August 21, 2008

    Personally i dont care if the mother and grand-mother went down stairs for 20 minutes. as a mother i will never keep my child in a swing with a puppy in the same house. knowing puppies have a tendency to bite things, they both should lose their lives as brutal as the 2 month old baby. a baby cannot defend them selves as an older kid can. thats common sense. so why have both the women moan and groan for the reset of their life for a mistake that should of never of happen when they can be killed. so really what is the point of letting them live free because they thought it was okay?

  9. Katherine
    November 1, 2008

    Well honestly there is nothing wrong with leaving a sleeping baby alone for minute, but she didn’t leave the baby alone, she left it with a pet. EVERYONE knows you should never, ever leave a child unattended with any pet – dogs and cats can bite, and even fish tanks are a drowning hazzard. They may be pets, but they are still more like wild animals than we like to think.

  10. sandrar
    September 10, 2009

    Hi! I was surfing and found your blog post… nice! I love your blog. 🙂 Cheers! Sandra. R.

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