Life as a mom who has her hands full
Today I read a disturbing article. An L.A. paper reported that a 2 month old baby was mauled to death by a Lab puppy. The mother and grandmother were home, but the baby was in another room, and left unattended in a swing. The puppy was removed from the home and more than likely will be put to sleep.
While this story is sad and upsetting on so many levels, what surprised me the most was the comments I read by readers. Most readers were upset that the puppy was going to be “put to sleep” and they blamed the mother for being negligent and leaving her child unattended around a lab puppy. So many readers commented ..”where were the parents..they should be prosecuted for neglect since they left their child unattended in a room.” SERIOUSLY??? PROSECUTED??? What could we possibly do to that mother that would be any worse than having her newborn baby killed>??? She is going to suffer greatly for what amounts to a mistake. And lets face it…all of us as mothers make mistakes.
How many of us, as mothers, have left our newborn sleeping peacefully in their swing while we went downstairs to do a load of laundry? Or to answer the phone in the next room? Or to water the garden? Pick up the mail from the mailbox? Are we negligent? NO.
What happened was a tragedy. A horrible tragedy that most of us pray every night we don’t have to live through. I was appalled at the “stone throwers” that want this woman to be punished, or who blame her. She will live the rest of her life wondering “what if”..she will go over and over that day in her mind until she goes numb. ..if she could’ve known, she would’ve never left the room. But we have the gift of hindsight. Is the puppy to blame?? The puppy was probably trying to play with the baby…he is an animal and doesn’t know any better..why blame him. The baby was innocent..too little to defend himself, too young to fight…there is no blame there. So who is to blame?
Maybe..just maybe there are things that happen in life…where no one is to blame. Maybe we, as a society, should try to look beyond placing blame..stop trying so hard to find someone to blame..someone to become the scape goat. The reason we need to blame the mother, blame the puppy..is so we can distance ourselves from what happened. So we can have a reason to believe that “this won’t happen to us..not to our children”. But accidents do happen…mistakes are made…even by good mothers.
“Let he who is without sin, cast the first stone”……even now…especially now….those words still ring true.
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